In therapy with my rose.
The other day I watched 'Zomergasten' - summer guests - on national television. In this TV program, the guest is being interviewed live for a whole evening. Very nice slow TV. The guest of this evening is Esther Perel. She is a psychotherapist and writer.
Esther Perel talks passionately about her work as a relationship therapist. She explains: "What used to be attractive when a relationship starts, often becomes the reason for debate later on. Because what used to be attractive for its difference becomes annoying over time. Even more so as you always get a little more than you like ...... and that causes the problem". Her approach intrigues me.
Next day as I stroll through the garden and look at my rose ‘Nuit de Young’, I realize this goes not only for people, but also for plants. You are attracted to a plant because it is different, but you always get a little more ........
That is why I went into therapy with my rose Nuit de Young.
“What makes him attractive?”
Soft hairy buds, he is a moss rose
Beautiful dark red colour
Thrives even in my dry border.
"But you always get a bit more than you want and then it becomes a problem"
Here is the problem with ‘Nuit de Young’. His roots have crawled through the entire border. He creeps through the plants, through the pavement and even through the lawn to explore the adjacent border. There is no balance in our relationship anymore!
I was in relationship therapy with my rose ... he did not say much ....
‘Nuit de Young’ and I have definitively separated.
Rosa 'Nuit de Young' before flowering.
Rosa 'Nuit de Young' in full flower.
This is the space Rosa 'Nuit de Young' needed.
Rosa 'Nuit de Young' on the pavement.